Cannot help these bad thoughts playing on my mind [ADVICE]

[Sunny Love]

Couldn't help but post, I can really feel your anguish. Unfortunatly there is little that can be done to reassure your worries, other than what other ladies have suggested (private scans and keeping busy.) My advice, just believe in what you can't see or control, you have too. Early prg after loss is kind of like the Pacific Ocean, you know its there, and sometimes you can see/touch it, but mostly you can't, you just trust in what you believe. Just believe PZ, we do.
Much faith and love.
xx

[Arcadia]

Motherhood is such a test of our resolve and our ability to trust in our baby and ourselves.

I think perhaps you could start looking into some affirmations, and maybe even create a little baby/birth alter to create a space to go when worries overtake you...I found it really helpful even after DD was born, because the worrying doesn't stop!!

Maybe you could write up some affirmations to read, such as "Surrender to the process" and "I trust in my body and my baby" to reassure yourself that there really isn't anything you CAN do, but try and ride this wave of uncertainty.

I am not a fan of frequent scans etc, because I think they just add to the anxiety (for me personally). Instead I have found it easier to just quietly listen to my baby and trust things will be ok...whatever the outcome.

Bit of a ramble, but just know you are certainly not alone, even those of us without losses experience this kind of anxiety.

[TeniBear]

Until I started feeling Cookie move, I knew I'd lost him/her. I just knew it. There was pretty much no doubt in my mind that I'd be having another dead baby. I went into my first and second scans telling Scott all would be okay, but knowing it wasn't. And guess what? S/he's still there, belting me from the inside at every opportunity. It's so normal to have these feelings whether you've had a loss or not, and that's okay. It's alright to be afraid sometimes. If you're really badly scared, who cares about clogging up the public system? Go have a quick scan (when I say quick I just mean the actual scan, not the waiting times, etc. of course)

Hey, if you want we could see if they can do a quick check on you after my u/s next Monday?

[human bean]

It is so very hard isn't it just take it day by day, acknowledge the fear but try not to service it too much, easier said than done I know. I wish I'd spent more of DD's pregnancy enjoying it, and not being so convinced for the most part that something was wrong, but hindsight is a wonderful thing, especially now she's safe in my arms. And I'm sure I'll have all the same fears throughout my next pregnancy if I'm blessed enough to have one. Extra scans will only reassure you while they're being done, then the worries creep back in once you wake the next day, or even later that day Don't be afraid to pour all of your love and trust into the amazing life that is growing within you PZ

[Bumperstump Cummerbund]

Oh darl I understand where you're coming from. All my experience tells me that pregnancy lasts 6 weeks and doesn't result in a baby

Could you make the effort to write a journal for your baby? Just a small entry every day, saying what you did for bub that day, how you're feeling etc. Obviously you wouldn't wanna make the whole thing a downer, so it might force you to focus on the good stuff, even if its only for an hour or so every day y'know? Talk to bub, rub your bump, basically 'fake it til you make it'. If you do these things often enough, hopefully it will override your current habit of stressing.....at least, that's my theory

Hugs for you hun